Oklahoma City Divorce Attorney - Maintaining Good Communication Will Save You Money

During the early stages of the divorce process there is a high probability that you and your spouse do not want to speak to each other. You and your spouse made several unsuccessful attempts to patch things up, the marriage has come to a close, and quite frankly, both of you are so frustrated with the entire situation that neither of you wants to communicate with the other. If this is you, you should keep reading this article.

What was described above is the typical divorce scenario, neither you nor your spouse wants to communicate and neither of you is willing to exert that extra effort that is required in order to reopen the channel of communication. Take our advice, you should exert the extra effort. You should reopen the channel of communication. Doing so will save you months of time and thousands of dollars.

What happens if you do not exert that extra effort? You and your spouse will both ‘lawyer up'. You will then file for divorce and then as the divorce process moves forward neither you nor your spouse will have clue about what the other wants. In order to communicate with your spouse, you will have to contact your attorney, who will then contact the spouse's attorney, who will then contact the spouse. The whole process will linger for several months and end up costing you thousands of dollars in unnecessary attorney fees.
On the other hand, what happens if you do exert that extra effort? You and your spouse will contact each other and arrange a ‘sit down' meeting. Nothing formal, no lawyers present, no mediator, just a casual ‘sit down' meeting between the two of you.

When the ‘sit down' meeting occurs, you and your spouse will try to resolve the major issues. Just fyi, in the typical divorce scenario, the major issues are 1) property division, 2) debt division, and 3) child custody. As you discuss the major issues, you will negotiate back and forth until each one of the major issues is 100% resolved.
In the event that the ‘sit down' meeting does not resolve each one of the major issues, you and your spouse should hire a mediator. A mediator is a trained professional who will work with both of you in order to insure that a full and final settlement is reached.

After a full and final settlement is reached, the only thing you and your spouse will need in order to finalize the divorce is uncontested divorce paperwork. Take our advice, if your divorce is complicated, you should hire a licensed divorce attorney to draft the papers. If your divorce is simple, you should contact a divorce paperwork service. The paperwork service will draft your papers for a small, one-time fee.

Oklahoma City Divorce Attorney Matt Ingham is the founder and owner of Bulldog Divorce. If you have questions or comments for Matt, you can contact him by clicking on Oklahoma City Divorce Attorney or by calling (918) 591-2566.